When you’re a child, you feel like your family is your shield that no matter what happens to you, you will be protected. But sooner or later you grow up, and you realize that sometimes it’s the ones that you cherish the most that can hurt you very hard.
Sometimes, the people you feel the closest to, can tell you and do harsh things to you because they feel entitled to do so. And I am not talking about that phase when you are a teen and rebel against authority. We’re way pass that stage. You’re just a grown up taking decisions, making life choices, and sometimes not everyone around you understand what you’re doing, what you’re going through. And you’re at this point of life where you have to listen to yourself before listening to anyone else. But not everyone understands that.
As soon as you take bold decisions, you start to take risk, and to not follow the usual path, you get to face some of your closest relatives backbiting or trying to bring you down.
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Why though? I would say that the people who were always around you followed a certain path, and as soon as they see you going on a different one, they either fear for you out of love, either feel envy that they didn’t do the same. And the fact that they know you for long, they feel entitled to give you harsh comments.
But you know what, that’s a sign that you’re actually growing to be a different person. When you start to stand out for your principles, and make your own decisions, there will always be people trying to bring you down. Because you are trying to stand out, you are not taking the same path as them, because you have your own piece of mind. And that’s a sign that you are growing as a person.
You may feel down, but when you set a goal in mind, keep it in your head, and if you know you’re right don’t ever lose sight of your goal. Show yourself first that you can do and achieve things to reach your goal.
These experiences will forge you, because everything in life is not that easy, every time you take a decision, take action, there will be non-supportive people on the way. And that’s okay, it may hurt at first, but you are on the path of doing the things your way. So if you feel in your guts that you’re right, just go for it, own your decisions, and live up to it. Because in the end of the day, you are the game changer of your life, not people around you.
Your road on reaching your goals might be a bumpy road, but determination is key, when you know you are doing the right thing, nothing and no one should stop you. I’ve always thought that some people will always be around me, by my side, but somehow along the way, I’ve decided to leave them alongside the road. It’s not that I don’t care about them anymore, I do, but I’ve come to realize that some people were bringing me down, not intentionally, but just by their aspirations and their way of living. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not talking with despise here, but when you have a goal in mind and you want to reach it, you need to surround yourself of people who have the same mindset to motivate you.
You need to surround yourself with people who uplift you and help you reach the top. People who are going through the same process, who can understand your choices and actions. But usually that’s how life goes, you grow, your ambitions grow, and you tend naturally to surround yourself with people who are like you, who have the same mindset. Because you connect more with the people going through the same things as you. That’s as simple as it is.
To conclude on a positive note, all we need to do is to turn all the negativity we can face into motivation and into positivity. You may feel down after hearing harsh comments, and it may hurts even more when coming from your inner circle, but a wise friend gave me once this quote from Eleanor Roosevelt :
“ no one can make you feel inferior without your consent”.